Re: [Tec Talk] Jaws and dating sites
When you say my first question is, are you saying you ask them or are you saying that is the question that comes into your mind? You should never respond to a spam message. It tells the spammers the address is active and may result in you getting more spam.
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Actually, the code words to look for are Western Union Money Transfer!
I have received e-mail from the nicest sounding people who need 3,500 to pay their hotel bill after their passport, plane tickets and money were stolen.
It is always a sum in U. S. Dollars despite them staying at a large hotel in London.
My first question is which hotel are they staying in>? I say I will wire the money to the Hotel's General Manager's Personal attention.
Or say I happen to be visiting London at the moment, staying at the Savoy, just ask for me at the front desk.
They always turn out to be scammers!
From: main@TechTalk.groups.io <main@TechTalk.groups.io> On Behalf of Missa
Sent: August 7, 2018 21:45
Subject: Re: [TechTalk] Jaws and dating sites
I admit that I don't have a lot of experience with OKC. I never ran into that problem with the few guys I talked to I also limited my search to 20 miles of where I live and narrowed it down more when it came to what sort of relationship I was looking for. I would see about looking up how to work your profile. You know how they say to look alert when walking out to your car alone at night? I know that doesn't always count for a blind person, but the essence is the same. If you look confident and alert the scammers will pass you by since you won't look like an easy mark.
I did get a few messages that might've led that way on match, but I cut those off quick.
I've been blind for 11 years and the years I wasn't I spent the bulk of that on the internet. I was either playing online games or chatting so I had a sort of scam/asshole detector going on. Match helped me re-engage that since I hadn't been on the internet much since I lost my sight.... It's not fair to think each potential guy is a scammer, but I'd rather be safe than sorry again. A bad relationship decision was pretty much a big reason I lost my sight in the first place. I used to attract jerks, lol.
I think reading profiles can give you a good idea of the person. I would skip profiles where they used bad grammar, "lol" a lot, and just things like that. I also used to pay attention to the number of pictures they had on their profile. I know I couldn't see them, but if there was only one or two that made me think. In this day and age, it is too easy to take a picture. Heck even I take a lot of pictures and I'm totally blind.
With match profiles I noticed that some would copy and paste the exact same paragraph or two so I would skip them. You just get a feel for it I guess? I would say read the questions, but some guys don't update their answers. I took note of some answers and asked my boyfriend about his answer ... his reply was that he hadn't updated them since he created his account years ago. hah So, get some answer/questions and ask the person messaging you. I'd think that would be a good way to see because you can't change your answers for 24 hours I think.
My sister, years ago, ran into a scam from a dating app. I forget what it was called... it had to do with wire transfers and Nigeria.
When she told me about it I couldn't believe it because the word "Nigeria" would have set off air raid sirens in my head. I won't go into what all happened with her, but I made her get everything related to it and report it to the FBI.
If there is any mention of money, needing this or that, or anything not related to getting to know someone and wanting something I'd ditch it and move on. I know as a blind person picking are slim, but there is no reason to settle ... ever. I wouldn't ditch it right away, but give them time to redeem or hang themselves.
As I said I talk a lot.... I did a lot of research before I even created accounts. I looked up how to fill out my profile, what to include or not include in it, ways to word it, and things like that. I also looked up how to message people and how it might go. I was really out of the game when it came to messaging people who weren't my family/close friends. I started with the 7-day trial with Match, was suckered into paying for a month, and moved on to the next app which was OKC.
It is tempting to run ahead and get things right now, but I prefer to be prepared before I go into any endeavor.
I'm in no way an expert since I was very fortunate to find someone interesting within a couple of months, but a little info is still some info. I know what to do, for the most part, if I have to do it all over again.
On 8/7/18, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...> wrote:
> Thanks so much for all of your help. I do have one question, do you
> notice with ok cupid that there are a lot of scam artists asking for
> money? They sound really good on their profiles and then you come to
> realize they are not who they say they are? My friend has found quite
> a few scam artists on there from different countries. Thanks again.
> On 8/6/2018 6:02 PM, Missa wrote:
>> I switch back and forth between the mobile (m.okcupid.com) and the
>> desktop site. It depends on what you are wanting to do. I had to mess
>> around with it a bit to be able to respond to messages I got with
>> likes. They changed it so that messages don't go through unless both
>> parties like each other. That can be frustrating when you get a
>> notification that someone liked and messaged you.... I used those
>> sites coupled with the iOS app. I had to turn VO off to swipe though
>> to get to the profiles that also messaged/liked me. It takes trial
>> and error, but I was mostly satisfied with it.
>> I can read profiles and the questions just fine. You have to go from
>> the top a lot of the times because of the way their site is
>> programmed.... navigating by single letter doesn't always work either.
>> I do some searching with find too.
>> On 8/6/18, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...> wrote:
>>> I tried okcupid a few years ago and I couldn't get anywhere with it.
>>> I had trouble navigating the site. I would rather do free ones
>>> because when they see that I'm blind in my profile, I don't get many responses.
>>> I have been on of now for over a year and have found nothing. I
>>> can read profiles really well and I can also send messages with no problem.
>>> Is ok cupid like that? Thanks everyone for your comments.
>>> On 8/5/2018 9:16 AM, Missa wrote:
>>>> Match was helpful to me after I mention I was blind… however them
>>>> interface is clunky, not very helpful, and I noticed a bunch of
>>>> spam bot.
>>>> Plus, I found it expensive for what little I got out of it… I never
>>>> got past the initial survey for harmony site, Using my iPhone or me
>>>> computer with NVDA. I did not think about using jaws or narrator. I
>>>> used OkCupid.
>>>> didn’t pay for it though and it seem to have worked for me. There
>>>> are some things that didn’t work for me and I haven’t seen if those
>>>> things have been fixed lately with the iOS app. I would switch back
>>>> and forth between the mobile site when I used it on my computer.
>>>> I put that I am blind in my profile. I felt that it would be a sort
>>>> of deception on my part if I did not disclose that at first. I did
>>>> not get a lot of responses when I sent them out, but I figured I
>>>> would weed them out to begin with. I still got some interest from
>>>> other people, but I did not use it for very long before I found the
>>>> person I am currently seeing. So, I have not experimented with it
>>>> more since I started with back in March.
>>>>> On Aug 3, 2018, at 3:52 PM, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...>
>>>>> Hi Everyone:
>>>>> Does any of you know if Jaws works well with dating sites and if
>>>>> so, which ones do you think are the best? I have tried some and
>>>>> you have to put in a code that you see on the screen and Jaws
>>>>> doesn't work with that or any screen reader for that matter. A
>>>>> lot of dating sites seem not to be willing to help people with
>>>>> disabilities. Thanks in advance for any feedback.