Re: [Tec Talk] Jaws and dating sites

Pamela Dominguez

I've been getting mail that says it's from Wells Fargo. I delete it, since
I have nothing to do with that. Pam.

-----Original Message-----
From: Brian K. Lingard
Sent: Monday, September 03, 2018 12:59 AM
Subject: Re: [TechTalk] [Tec Talk] Jaws and dating sites

Actually, the code words to look for are Western Union Money Transfer!

I have received e-mail from the nicest sounding people who need 3,500 to pay
their hotel bill after their passport, plane tickets and money were stolen.

It is always a sum in U. S. Dollars despite them staying at a large hotel in

My first question is which hotel are they staying in>? I say I will wire the
money to the Hotel's General Manager's Personal attention.

Or say I happen to be visiting London at the moment, staying at the Savoy,
just ask for me at the front desk.

They always turn out to be scammers!

From: <> On Behalf of Missa
Sent: August 7, 2018 21:45
Subject: Re: [TechTalk] Jaws and dating sites

I admit that I don't have a lot of experience with OKC. I never ran into
that problem with the few guys I talked to I also limited my search to 20
miles of where I live and narrowed it down more when it came to what sort of
relationship I was looking for. I would see about looking up how to work
your profile. You know how they say to look alert when walking out to your
car alone at night? I know that doesn't always count for a blind person, but
the essence is the same. If you look confident and alert the scammers will
pass you by since you won't look like an easy mark.
I did get a few messages that might've led that way on match, but I cut
those off quick.
I've been blind for 11 years and the years I wasn't I spent the bulk of that
on the internet. I was either playing online games or chatting so I had a
sort of scam/asshole detector going on. Match helped me re-engage that since
I hadn't been on the internet much since I lost my sight.... It's not fair
to think each potential guy is a scammer, but I'd rather be safe than sorry
again. A bad relationship decision was pretty much a big reason I lost my
sight in the first place. I used to attract jerks, lol.
I think reading profiles can give you a good idea of the person. I would
skip profiles where they used bad grammar, "lol" a lot, and just things like
that. I also used to pay attention to the number of pictures they had on
their profile. I know I couldn't see them, but if there was only one or two
that made me think. In this day and age, it is too easy to take a picture.
Heck even I take a lot of pictures and I'm totally blind.
With match profiles I noticed that some would copy and paste the exact same
paragraph or two so I would skip them. You just get a feel for it I guess? I
would say read the questions, but some guys don't update their answers. I
took note of some answers and asked my boyfriend about his answer ... his
reply was that he hadn't updated them since he created his account years
ago. hah So, get some answer/questions and ask the person messaging you. I'd
think that would be a good way to see because you can't change your answers
for 24 hours I think.
My sister, years ago, ran into a scam from a dating app. I forget what it
was called... it had to do with wire transfers and Nigeria.
When she told me about it I couldn't believe it because the word "Nigeria"
would have set off air raid sirens in my head. I won't go into what all
happened with her, but I made her get everything related to it and report it
to the FBI.
If there is any mention of money, needing this or that, or anything not
related to getting to know someone and wanting something I'd ditch it and
move on. I know as a blind person picking are slim, but there is no reason
to settle ... ever. I wouldn't ditch it right away, but give them time to
redeem or hang themselves.
As I said I talk a lot.... I did a lot of research before I even created
accounts. I looked up how to fill out my profile, what to include or not
include in it, ways to word it, and things like that. I also looked up how
to message people and how it might go. I was really out of the game when it
came to messaging people who weren't my family/close friends. I started
with the 7-day trial with Match, was suckered into paying for a month, and
moved on to the next app which was OKC.
It is tempting to run ahead and get things right now, but I prefer to be
prepared before I go into any endeavor.
I'm in no way an expert since I was very fortunate to find someone
interesting within a couple of months, but a little info is still some info.
I know what to do, for the most part, if I have to do it all over again.
On 8/7/18, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...> wrote:
Thanks so much for all of your help. I do have one question, do you
notice with ok cupid that there are a lot of scam artists asking for
money? They sound really good on their profiles and then you come to
realize they are not who they say they are? My friend has found quite
a few scam artists on there from different countries. Thanks again.


On 8/6/2018 6:02 PM, Missa wrote:
I switch back and forth between the mobile ( and the
desktop site. It depends on what you are wanting to do. I had to mess
around with it a bit to be able to respond to messages I got with
likes. They changed it so that messages don't go through unless both
parties like each other. That can be frustrating when you get a
notification that someone liked and messaged you.... I used those
sites coupled with the iOS app. I had to turn VO off to swipe though
to get to the profiles that also messaged/liked me. It takes trial
and error, but I was mostly satisfied with it.
I can read profiles and the questions just fine. You have to go from
the top a lot of the times because of the way their site is
programmed.... navigating by single letter doesn't always work either.
I do some searching with find too.
On 8/6/18, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...> wrote:
I tried okcupid a few years ago and I couldn't get anywhere with it.
I had trouble navigating the site. I would rather do free ones
because when they see that I'm blind in my profile, I don't get many
I have been on of now for over a year and have found nothing. I
can read profiles really well and I can also send messages with no
Is ok cupid like that? Thanks everyone for your comments.


On 8/5/2018 9:16 AM, Missa wrote:
Match was helpful to me after I mention I was blind… however them
interface is clunky, not very helpful, and I noticed a bunch of
spam bot.
Plus, I found it expensive for what little I got out of it… I never
got past the initial survey for harmony site, Using my iPhone or me
computer with NVDA. I did not think about using jaws or narrator. I
used OkCupid.
didn’t pay for it though and it seem to have worked for me. There
are some things that didn’t work for me and I haven’t seen if those
things have been fixed lately with the iOS app. I would switch back
and forth between the mobile site when I used it on my computer.
I put that I am blind in my profile. I felt that it would be a sort
of deception on my part if I did not disclose that at first. I did
not get a lot of responses when I sent them out, but I figured I
would weed them out to begin with. I still got some interest from
other people, but I did not use it for very long before I found the
person I am currently seeing. So, I have not experimented with it
more since I started with back in March.

On Aug 3, 2018, at 3:52 PM, Shelly Kane <shellykane323@...>

Hi Everyone:

Does any of you know if Jaws works well with dating sites and if
so, which ones do you think are the best? I have tried some and
you have to put in a code that you see on the screen and Jaws
doesn't work with that or any screen reader for that matter. A
lot of dating sites seem not to be willing to help people with
disabilities. Thanks in advance for any feedback.


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